{"id":803,"date":"2002-07-07T17:35:00","date_gmt":"2002-07-07T17:35:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ultrasparky.org\/blog\/?p=803"},"modified":"2024-11-28T01:04:48","modified_gmt":"2024-11-28T06:04:48","slug":"kinky_boyfriend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ultrasparky.org\/blog\/2002\/07\/07\/kinky_boyfriend\/","title":{"rendered":"Kinky Boyfriend"},"content":{"rendered":"

The words were so simple and accurate,<\/strong> I was amazed that I had never managed to string them together myself. They were exactly what I\u2019d been trying to say, and even made connections I hadn\u2019t been able to properly express yet.<\/p>\n

\u201cI want a kinky boyfriend.\u201d<\/p>\n

I was chatting with a guy online, and we fell into lamentations about the difficulties of meeting guys who were into headier sexual thrills but were still interested in more than the sex. When he said that, I all but smacked my head in disbelief. Eureka! that\u2019s what I\u2019ve been saying in a roundabout way: I want a kinky boyfriend.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not squeamish about other fetishes that go further than just the leather. In fact, I\u2019m open to and enthusiastic about all kinds of kink. What I\u2019m not so interested in is getting into stuff that involves so much trust and skill with guys who I haven\u2019t grown to know. I don\u2019t want to be a modular piece of somebody\u2019s scene, or have some guy just be a piece of mine. I want to know someone, see how he ticks, learn what gets him beyond simple horniness, know the shape of his boundaries, and push them. And have the same done to me.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve had lots of hot, dirty, casual sex and play, and I think it can be a whole lot of fun. It\u2019s fun and cathartic and even educational with the right guy, but I want more. I want more than you can get from a quick roll in the hay or two. I want to get my mind and my emotions involved. I want to make someone dizzy with anticipation and lust. I want to make someone feel secure. I want someone to let down his guard because he knows it\u2019s alright. I want to get past someone\u2019s reservations and get into the whole man inside. I want to open up and feel a more complete version of myself tingle. That\u2019s not casual.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve gotten a handle on the fleeting thrills of casual sex and casual kink. I\u2019ve gotten to know the pleasures of falling in love and the frustrations of not being able to explain what else was missing. After years of getting to know what else turns me on, and how important all that is, I wanna find somebody who can go further with me. I\u2019m willing to be led or I\u2019m willing to take the lead, but mostly I want to make the journey together with a man who sees a similar destination.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The words were so simple and accurate, I was amazed that I had never managed to string them together myself. They were exactly what I\u2019d been trying to say, and even made connections I hadn\u2019t been able to properly express yet. \u201cI want a kinky boyfriend.\u201d I was chatting with a guy online, and we … Continue reading “Kinky Boyfriend”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9,5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-803","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ultragay","category-ultrapersonal"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ultrasparky.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/803","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ultrasparky.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ultrasparky.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ultrasparky.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ultrasparky.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=803"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/ultrasparky.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/803\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":71590,"href":"https:\/\/ultrasparky.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/803\/revisions\/71590"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ultrasparky.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=803"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ultrasparky.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=803"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ultrasparky.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=803"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}