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My Fellow Subversionists

It's hard to even start writing about the whole gay marriage controversy, because I feel so strongly about it and because I think it ties into so many different dynamics swirling around in modern society. I freely 'fess up to my bias, of course: I’m gay and I wanna get married. To expand a teensy bit more: if I’m going to make the major effort (and endless mini-efforts) of committing to someone who I care about so deeply, then I want to enjoy the many benefits (and yes, even the responsibilities) that the law bestows on other couples in order to encourage stability for each of those couples and the society in which they live.

I don't care if your religion approves or not: I’m not asking it to. But our government claims to function separately from religion, and it grants legal rights to married couples that have nothing whatsoever to do with the religious affiliations of married couples. If the law grants each individual the full rights of adult citizens I can't see how a couple can be denied the full rights of any two other citizens who choose to pair up. that’s why I can't accept the idea of any legislation that chooses to make a distinction between gay or straight couples: if there's a precedent for restricting the rights of a gay couple, then it also sets a precedent for restricting the rights of the individuals involved.

But there I go ranting on and on when what I meant to say was: Look at how many people I care about and respect are taking a stand on this: Aaron and Keith, Mark and Rich, David and Mark, Nancy and Cynthia, and of course Phyllis and Del and all the other folks who've grabbed this opportunity. Look at the pictures and read the stories: these aren't people doing this to rend the very fabric of society or make a mockery of what you hold dear. These are people who want to share their lives with someone they love, and want that effort to count for something.

Aaron and Keith

Comments (5)

1) jaqui: i definitely agree with you. those that say letting gays & lesbians marry will taint marriage should flip on primetime network tv & see all the jerks getting married for money & fame. & it's being aired for entertainment value! to those that say marriage should promote pro-creation, & two people of the same sex can't possibly bear children. should we ban people unable to reproduce [for whatever reason] for getting married [to the opposite sex] as well? to me, the arguments against gay marriage are flimsy, but some people are too blinded by their irrational fear to realize that. (Mar 2, 2004 1:29 PM)

2) Drub: Amen. While I've always held the position of not wanting to tie the knot myself, I firmly stand and would take it to the streets like an Iron Jawed Angel to fight for the civil rights of my gay brothers and sisters. When will the religious right get it that we don't need them to get married because marriage is a civil institution? (Mar 2, 2004 4:37 PM)

3) Jim: There are a few conservative Christians that appear to "get it", and attempt to argue against gay marriage without bringing religion into it. But of course, their arguements become extremely easy to pick apart. I posted a point-by-point arguement against one such article from "Christianity Today". (Mar 3, 2004 12:26 PM)

4) landry: If gay people start getting married, they stop looking like perverts and more like "regular" people. The conservatives want their gays pervy, dirty and foaming at the mouth. they can not possibly start letting them get married. bastards. (Mar 4, 2004 8:17 PM)

5) SnuggyBoy: It's just a wild guess, or maybe a wish, but I'm betting the marriage of gays will outshine those of straights. Gays don't have it easy finding a partner, demography alone is against them. From the journals and discussions I read on the net I get the feeling that when gays are ready to make a commitment it is less ambiguous and more certain. Years from now when the stats come in on divorce rates, we may find that the "sanctity of marriage" is really a queer thing. Now if I were a religious consevative, that would scare the hell out of me. (Mar 7, 2004 11:31 PM)

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